Anger cycle
Pretends to be normal phase: life runs smoothly but anger lurks beneath the surface, affecting the way the person lives and acts
Build up phase: person focuses on the distorted thinking
Acting out phase
Downward spiral phase: person feels guilt and defenses are built
Anger is inappropriately handled in 3 ways
1. Aggression: physical violence, emotional and verbal abuse, control and domination
2. Internalization: directed toward self
3. Passive-aggressive behavior: anger expressed indirectly through rather than directly aggressive
Causes of Anger
Distorted perceptions
Dwell on the negative
Threat
Injustice
Mistreatment
Overcoming our Anger
Know your cues
Pray about it more than talk about it (the anger provoking incident)
Resolve underlying problems
Take responsibility for your anger
Take ownership of your anger
Take responsibility for your own anger and not blame someone else
Ask yourself: why am I angry? Is it pride, for gain or another action?
Defuse anger-provoking thoughts
Keep an anger Log
Learn relaxation exercises
Philippians 4:6-7 “ ..but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”