How thoughts shape our lives and relationships Season 1 Episode 11

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How thoughts shape our lives and relationships

I have a returning guest for this episode, my husband named Jeff. We discussed how our thoughts influence our feelings which influence our actions.

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“As the plant springs from, and could not be without, the seed, so every act of a man springs from the hidden seeds of thought, and could not have appeared without them. This applies equally to those acts called ‘spontaneous’ and ‘unpremeditated’ as to those which are deliberately executed. … “In the armory of thought he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself; he also fashions the tools with which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and peace. … Between these two extremes are all the grades of character, and man is their maker and master. … Man is the master of thought, the molder of character, and the maker and sharper of condition, environment, and destiny”

“Let a man radically alter his thoughts, and he will be astonished at the rapid transformation it will effect in the material conditions of his life. Men imagine that thought can be kept secret, but it cannot; it rapidly crystallizes into habit, and habit solidifies into circumstance”
— James Allen (As a Man Thinketh)
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Twisted Thinking

  1. Negatively labeling yourself

  2. Discounting the positives

  3. Minimization

  4. Demandiosity

  5. Black and white thinking

  6. Blaming

  7. Awfulizing

  8. Jumping to conclusions

  9. Magnification

  10. Emotional Reasoning

  11. Low frustration tolerance

  12. Needing Approval

  13. Myth of helplessness

  14. Perfectionism

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Around the Church I hear many who struggle with this issue: “I am just not good enough.” “I fall so far short.” “I will never measure up.” I hear this from teenagers. I hear it from missionaries. I hear it from new converts. I hear it from lifelong members. One insightful Latter-day Saint, Sister Darla Isackson, has observed that Satan has somehow managed to make covenants and commandments seem like curses and condemnations. For some he has turned the ideals and inspiration of the gospel into self-loathing and misery-making.
— Be Ye Therefore Perfect—Eventually By Elder Jeffrey R. Holland
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There has only been one perfect person that walked this earth

“Until next week May the light of the savior shine in your relationships and bring you joy each and every day.”
— Dru Christiansen