Unity and Love in marriage
I discuss how to be unified in our marriage and the different types of love and how they can help unify us.
“ “at the creation of man and woman , unity for them in marriage was not given as hope: it was a command!.. Our Heavenly Father wants our hearts to be knit together. That union in love is not simply an ideal, it is a necessity?””
Mosiah 18:21 “ And he commanded them that there should be not contention one with another, but that they should look forward with one eye, having one faith and one baptism, having their hearts knit together in unity and in love one towards another”
Genesis 2:24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”.
Lee’s love theory
Mania: Obsessive love
Pragma: practical love
Ludus: game playing love in which a person sees love as a game of skill and strategy
Eros: Erotic love, or love that is based primarily on physical attraction and a strong sense of passion toward the love object
Storage: stable love, typically deep and long term, in which the relationship is based on strong friendship and mutual respect
Agape: selfless love
Christ-like love
““Friendship is…a vital and wonderful part of courtship and marriage. A relationship between a man and a woman that begins with friendship and then ripens into romance and eventually marriage will usually become an enduring, eternal friendship. Nothing is more inspiring in today’s world of easily dissolved marriages than to observe a husband and wife quietly appreciating and enjoying each other’s friendship year in and year out as they experience together the blessings and trials of mortality””
What are some qualities of a friendship:
Respectful
Loyal
Never judges
Accepting
Trustworthy
Honesty but not brutality
Encouraging
Generosity
Humor
Enjoy doing the same things
Brings out the best in the other person
Has your back
You can talk about personal things without judgement
Dependable
Celebrates your success
You have fun together and many more things
Have fun together
Treat each other as equals
Cultivate love
Nurture the relationship
Have compassion
Forgive one another
“Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them—-we can only love others as much as we love ourselves”
D&C 42:22 Those who are married should consider their union as their most cherished earthly relationship. A spouse is the only person other than the Lord whom we have been commanded to love with all our heart
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity can not survive”
Mosiah 18:21 So “knit together in unity and in love one towards another”
““Until next week May the light of the savior shine in your relationships and bring you joy each and every day.””